This quote and the long one about to come is from Wayne Dyer's Real Magic. For me, they resonate.
“An individual remains an individual, not only from birth to death, but actually long before birth until long, long after death…. We never lose our individuality; we never lose our uniqueness…. Each of us is individual, and each of us has individual qualities, each of us has individual talents and gifts, and these are not to be surrendered in marriage. Therefore in a spiritual marriage there is not bondage but freedom, but this is not true in human marriage. It is true in spiritual marriage; where both recognize that in marrying they are setting each other free. This is the only thing I have discovered in thirty years of this work that will make possible such things as happy marriages, peaceful marriages, successful marriages; the ability to set the other free and each live with his own individual life, and yet share with each other without demanding…. Neither husband nor wife has any rights; they have only the privilege of giving, but they have no right to demand anything of the other.”
"According to the illustrious magician Harry Houdini, magic is achieved through illusion. A simple example is an illusion created by using smoke and mirrors. The illusion is called magic simply because it appears to be unexplainable. Late in his career, though, Houdini alluded to something that he experienced which he called "real magic." He apparently had acquired the ability to produce results that were in fact unexplainable. These magical results could not be accounted for even as the product of illusion.
I chose the title of this book because I became attracted to the paradox inherent in those two words, real magic. You, like most people, are probably convinced that if something is real it cannot be magic, and if it is magic it cannot be real. However, it is my belief that when we get caught in this paradox we are inhibited from experiencing our magical dimensions. I believe that we experience real magic when we transcend the paradox and that the transcendent view encompasses the experience of real magic as indeed very real, and also magical."
I appreciate your patience... it is, of course, really bad form to have two such long quotes right in the beginning of a piece, especially, a piece titled, "What is Magic?" for it sort of slows down the momentum, doesn't it?
I am slowing down the momentum.
The idea of magic in relationships, in life, in emotion is something that should be pondered slowly.
I mean it.
WE ARE TALKING ABOUT THE MYSTERIES, HERE...
It is true, though.
People always say, "Where's the magic?" or "We lost the magic." or the worst, "Magic isn't real."
You bring the magic.
If the magic is lost, you lost it. If the "we" in your life is no longer magical, you must remember two things... You bring magic with you and second, if you don't give it to that significant person, anymore, you must ask yourself to do so or to leave so that you can give to yourself or someone else.
So, what is magic?
Besides knowing that you bring magic with you, magic, in itself, is a mystery.
As it should be...
But, here is what magic feels like to me.
Magic is when you are happy enough to wiggle your toes before you notice you are wiggling them.
Magic is when you understand
that a boat in a sparkling stream surrounded by light and wisteria
is not sitting empty
it is sitting full of potential.
Magic is being inspired.
I give inspiration.
I have been told I always have.
I guess I effervesce
even when quietly reading
or sitting on a bench in the city.
Real magic comes from seeing it in yourself.
We give of ourselves to others and they receive some love.
But, that is because we already must value our magic.
You can appreciate their love, receive it, understand it,
no one gives you Real Magic.
You bring the magic with you and it creates
so that you can breathe the bracing, fresh, life all around you.
that reveal where things got dodgy or blissful or essential.
And what I am here to say, today, is this, only you create this magic, by yourself, for yourself.
Remembering this makes you able to give all sorts of sparkles to your life,
I mean, I am talking the sparklers on a hot, dark, July night that remind you that you are spark.